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Penny Payne's avatar

He ran down the corridor

Bursting to say:

“Guess what I just

Discovered today?

But you already know, mum.

And you dad, too.

Why didn’t I know?

Who told Aunt Lou?”

I feel left out.

A secret not shared.

Nobody told me.

Nobody dared.

They knew I’d be upset.

I’d not understand -

How could we be moving

To a strange new land?

I’ll leave all my friends.

I won’t talk like them.

I won’t have my bedroom.

I’ll be starting again.

They knew for a year.

Why did nobody say?

I thought secrets were bad?

I’ve learnt something today..

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Lesley Mason's avatar

“Oh and there was the baby,” Mam said. They were talking family history again. Having got about as far as he was likely to with his own side of the family Dad had started on hers. We knew all about the sisters, they’d been part of our lives as kids, and Nanny too for a little while. We didn’t know grandfather (or grandad or gramps or whatever he might have wanted to be called) but we knew about him. We’d heard tales, we’d heard him quoted. We knew about the brothers too, who followed their Dad down into the pit, and carried its poison in their lungs. All three into their early graves. “And there was the baby,” Mam said.

We didn’t – still don’t – know about the baby. Nameless. Lost. Forgotten. Some things, it seems become their own kind of secret, not because they are hidden, but because they are simply not spoken of. They are forgotten, lost, nameless.

I wonder about that secret baby – that sacred nameless child – where in the sequence did he or she arrive and how (and how quickly) did (s)he depart again?

We’re not great grave-tenders in my family, more lately the choice is not to have graves at all, or even markers – but we care about the names and the stories, and I wish I knew the secrets of that short (or unlived) life of that un-named little one. I may be the only person in the surviving family that even knows he or she ever was.

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